Couples therapy is all about two people working together and solving the issues that affect them so they can again have a loving caring relationship. Therapy only works if the two people are committed to moving forward together.
The Relationship issue
How things have changed in the last 10 years. It is more difficult now to be in a relationship than it was 10 years ago. In the last 10 years our expectations in a relationship have changed and this is down to 5 simple reasons.
1. World problems: We are more anxious about things happening in the world 24/7 news is informing us of much more bad news all the time maybe we are a little bit too informed about world problems and this can leave us feeling anxious and depressed.
2.Finances:Money worries are on the rise, our spending styles have changed and financial stress has a big effect on relationship satisfaction, the cost of living crisis and the strain can become too much.
3.Work: We are working differently now and we are contactable 24/7 now, a lot of couples don't work the same hours and with more time apart or too much time together(if working from home) and this affects spending quality time together. 4.Technology is luring us away from spending time together and we are having less sex because of technology. We are always on our phone apps now checking this, doing that ignoring conversations. Not understanding how the other person is feeling and then you have social media taking all our attention. Everyone looks better richer happier than you on social media partners are leaner more buff cleverer and have more friends than you and your partner. Trust issues are at a high especially around how people are using technology and who they are connecting with online.We engage with our gadgets but not our partners we are spending less time focusing on our partners needs. When we speak we are still scrolling looking at our phones paying no attention to our partners face, body language or mood. We don't see them hurting without looking and seeing how they are and when we don't focus misunderstandings happen. We have higher expectations of our relationship we want bigger this better that we want what we see on social media what the celebrities have and their is more emphasis on personal fulfilment and individual growth than prioritising relationship growth.
5.Support:We have less of a support mechanism now our friends are busy with their own lives and problems our community has disappeared with more people working different hours bringing children here and there family no longer living close to us and we end up more isolated and drinking more feeling more lonely more depressed in our lives. Isn't it time to reconnect to those feelings thoughts and emotions we had when we first met and to enjoy each other's company again doing things together smiling laughing feeling the love. Realising how important our relationship is is the first step to change. Change the habits to change the relationship and change the relationship to change your happiness. "love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear" John Lennon
What therapist is best for you
People google couples therapy, marriage therapy, family therapy, or counselling and get results with all the different types of therapy out there and the different therapists providing it and then you wonder what type of therapy do I want and need? The first step is obviously getting a commitment from your partner to participate in counselling. Then its about which one seems right for you. Getting the right therapist or practice is so important because the most important part of the counselling is that the couple feel like the therapy and therapist can help you resolve the problem. All therapies are about you talking about your issues and resolving them over a period of time and maybe never resolving the issue due to people not speaking or holding back during the therapy. With hypnotherapy you will be working individually and as a couple resolving your own issues internally and expressing them to your partner. Talking is good and talking to each other in a safe environment is the perfect place to resolve the issues.
The therapist never resolves the issues we only facilitate the couple to resolve their problem. The couple resolve their problems through trust commitment and having a desire to be together. Are you ready to heal your relationship. It isn't important to stare into each other's eyes you just need to be looking in the same direction.
Resolving relationship issues
Couples resolve their problems by understanding each other's feelings on the topic and knowing that they both love each other and that they are committed to resolving the conflict together. It is important that couples can easily communicate their thoughts and feelings without fear while understanding what they say can affect the other person's emotional well-being and confidence with their behaviour. Arguments do affect how we feel about ourselves our partners and this leads us to either go into a shell or become more angry and resentful. It can also lead to isolation and a feeling of loneliness and it certainly creates an atmosphere that is not good for anyone. Seeking professional help is important while you are still communicating. While resolving the issues always be aware of the other person's feelings and the commitment they are making to ensure a happy strong relationship continues.
Is couples hypnotherapy the right therapy for you?
When we are going through a rough period in a relationship we can consciously and subconsciously use thoughts(words) feelings(emotions) and behaviours to show the other person that we are not happy and this can lead to other conflicts that aren't really the issue but it does compound the problem.
In hypnotherapy we deal with both the conscious and subconscious mind to heal. We help you to reconnect in an easy way that resolves the conflict. We work on the negative thoughts feeling behaviours that we no longer need and replace them with the thoughts feelings and behaviours that you always had in that loving relationship before the unhappiness happened. You get the chance to remind yourself why you are with that person you care about at a subconscious level that will bring the joy excitement and happiness back into the relation, While the two of you connect in the same hypnotherapy session remembering why you are good together and what you need to do to make this relationship work together you learn along this process that the love, feelings and happy emotions that you had when you first made a commitment are even stronger now because of your love story through time. Imagine bringing that smile, happiness and relationship security back and making that connection stronger than you ever had into your life right now committed together to ensuring that each other is happy and content, that is what couples hypnosis can do for you.
To finish
Hypnotherapy can help you resolve your relationship issues, help you to recouple and reignite and improve your love making.
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